Having no children
was a serious matter. If you were a man, it meant that you had no heir, and if
you were a woman, it meant that you had failed as a wife. The mark of a
successful wife was a brood of children running around her so to have no
children clearly demonstrated your failure (despite the fact that as we now
know, it could very well have been the man's fault there were no children!).
Sarai had waited
years, absolutely years and still she had no children and no sign of one
coming, other than the word of the Lord. So, she did what many wives did in her
position in those days, gave her maidservant to Abram so he could get her
pregnant, and then the child would be treated as if it was Sarai's. She ran out
of patience with God, could see (and feel ) her advancing years, and
decided to take matters into her own hands.
How often do we do
that? We know what God wants of us, but things are moving too slowly, that
promotion hasn't come, the children are not turning out how we expected, the
husband/wife God has promised us seems like a far away dream so we try and sort
things out ourselves. We apply for other jobs, take a firmer hand with the
children, join a dating agency and so on. We rush on regardless of want God
wants.
Maybe the waiting is
for a reason. Maybe, like Abram and Sarai, it was to show beyond any shadow of
a doubt that God was behind Sarai getting pregnant. Maybe it is because we need
to grow, to learn, to experience certain things before we move into what god
has planned for us. Maybe when we rush into things, we are not ready, we don't
know enough, we haven't the necessary expertise or understanding.
I look at my children
and see them getting moody and grumpy at times, and I see a reflection of how I
was at the same age. I see how they see things in black and white, one way or
another and no compromise. Yet now I have been through the things I have experienced,
I know there are reasons behind the way people act, that there are grey areas,
times when there is no right or wrong answer. Yes, I know some people are rude,
ignorant, self seeking all the time, but there others who come out with a sharp
word, a hurtful word only because they themselves are hurting. You never know
why people say what they say, do the things they do, only God know theirs
hearts, so I try not to judge people when they look a certain way, when they
say mean things, when they are rude, uncaring, spiteful. I am not always
successful, I can tell you, but you don't know what a person is going through,
what their experience of life has been, so until you do, how can you judge why
they are behaving the way they are behaving?
Anyhow, getting back
to Sarai and Abram, after Hagar became pregnant, she started to become full of
her own self importance. After all, look at her, she got pregnant when after
umpteen years Sarai had never even had a glimmer of being pregnant. The relationship
between Sarai and Hagar was not just a mistress/servant one any longer. They
had both slept with the same man, yet only Hagar had become pregnant. So Hagar
started to despise Sarai and treated her with contempt.
What did Sarai do?
She went straight to Abram and told him it was all his fault!!!!!
Abram took the easy
option, and just told Sarai to do what she wanted. He wanted a quiet life, he
didn't want any fuss and bother, arguments between Sarai and Hagar disrupting
his peace, he just wanted to be left alone. He wasn't prepared to sort this out
himself, even though probably the while household knew what was going on and
had been going on for some time. Abram did the equivalent of hiding behind his
newspaper, hiding away in the garden shed, or disappearing to the office and
left Sarai and Hagar to it.
So Sarai treated
Hagar so badly that she ran away.
Then an angel of the
Lord appeared to Hagar and told her to go back, that God would take care of her
and increase her descendants so there would be too many to count. The angel
foretold:
Genesis 16:12 He will be a wild donkey of
a man; his hand will be against everyone and everyone’s hand against him, and
he will live in hostility towards all his brothers. (NIV)
Ishmael would be a
freeman, free to wander where he wanted, and his name means God hears. Hagar in
the desert when she ran away named the Lord "the one who sees", so in
just one chapter, God is named as the one who sees and hears. Ishmael represents
the child of the flesh, the Mosaic covenant, and Isaiah, the son of Abram and
Sarai, or Abraham and Sarah as they become, is the child of the promise, the
child of the Abrahamic covenant. Even today, the children of the flesh
persecute the children of the promise, reaping the consequences of what
happened when Abram and Sarai gave up waiting for God and took matters into
their own hands.
It is easy to decide
we know best, to take matters into our own hands and try to sort things out for
ourselves yet we need to have patience and to wait on God. This is often easier
said than done, and I know this from personal experience as I would rather get
up and do something, to sort out the problem, rather than sit back and wait.
It is a case of
having faith and trusting in God no matter what is going on around us, of
believing that God will fulfil whatever he promised, no matter how unlikely it
may sound. And after all, since a day is as a thousand years to the Lord, that
means that ten years in our time is only 14.4 minutes in God's…..